Managing Confidence and Imposter Syndrome

Uncategorized Oct 02, 2019

It’s not easy putting yourself out there. We are making ourselves vulnerable. We are taking risks. We will make mistakes. We are opening ourselves up to rejection and criticism. That is not necessarily fun, but it is necessary for growth and it builds grit.

"I am always doing things I can't do, that's how I get to do them." — Pablo Picasso  

Managing Confidence and Imposter Syndrome.

The key to building unshakeable confidence is being willing to laugh at yourself and accept failures as part of growth. By not caring too much about what other people think and letting other people’s criticism roll off of you.

Be kind and gentle with yourself. We are all failing every day. No one has their shit together all of the time. We must be willing to push ourselves through discomfort to get ahead. Otherwise, everything becomes a non-starter.

Confidence and vulnerability work together. Be afraid and courageous at the same time.

TIPS FOR MANAGING IMPOSTER SYNDROME...

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How We Sabotage Ourselves at Work

Uncategorized Jul 10, 2019

Check out the following article in the New York Times about Attachment Styles at Work and see how you can benefit from being aware of your triggers and what to do about it.  

Secure Attachment

Those with a secure attachment style at work take tasks as they come, do what they can and address issues that come up easily.

They work hard and do not fear saying no when they feel they need to.

They know they are capable, and they are confident that others will respond well to them.

How to tell if this is you

You generally fare best when it comes to managing your time. You are comfortable prioritizing tasks and asking for help when you need it.

You also feel comfortable setting healthy boundaries and pushing back when necessary, and you do not often engage in fear-based behavior.

If you have a secure attachment style at work, you are most likely managing your time well and achieving good work-life balance.

Stay secure but be aware.

Regularly ask for direct feedback...

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Analyzing Personal Performance and Productivity for Better Time Management

productivity time study Jul 10, 2019

Some of us are sprinters at work.

We work in long, all-in, intense bursts. Then, we need rest to recover. That’s an important part of the performance cycle too.

Often, we have a hard time claiming that for ourselves because of imposed judgment from others or because we're not maximizing our time optimally.

If you can’t take the time, build in your rest periods with tasks with lower intensity and less cognitive drain.

You’re probably doing it automatically anyway but with unproductive distractions and less control.

My clients are doing time studies over the next few weeks to prepare for Q3 and track and analyze how they are spending their time.

They’re coding for activities, energy levels throughout the day, moods, emotions, thoughts, distractions, procrastination, unconscious habits and patterns, etc.

We will analyze their data to tweak and optimize their productivity and performance.

Conduct your own time study and note your patterns. I bet you’ll...

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How to Deal with Fear of Speaking Up and Being Myself at Work

Uncategorized Apr 12, 2019

High achieving types often experience performance blocks.

When we unpack it, many times we discover perfectionism, vulnerability, and fear.

We may hold back words or action, because we are afraid of criticism and judgment about what we might say or do and what could go wrong.

We’re afraid of looking weak, foolish, and embarrassing ourselves.

We worry that we may not appear as smart or articulate as others and that we will make mistakes and look “dumb.”

So, we hold ourselves back and say and do less.

I will add that the more conservative the office or space, the more people seem to struggle with this.

The Cure

Put yourself out there anyway.

Fail more and excel at embarrassing yourself and making mistakes. Practice recovery methods for snafus and embarrassing moments. Own them and correct them if you must. But don’t feel that you have to explain yourself too much.

Trust yourself. You’ve come this far and it’s not by accident. You have things...

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The Most Important Question You Must Ask Yourself for Happiness at Work

Uncategorized Apr 12, 2019

Our workplaces, like many of our relationships, are often expected to give us a complete sense of happiness and satisfaction.

It’s unreasonable and unrealistic to expect anyone or any entity to provide us with all of our happiness, joy, success, and satisfaction.

We can’t impose our will onto others without conflict and vice-versa.

It’s on us to do our best to create happiness, joy, success, and satisfaction for ourselves in all the ways that we can.

It’s also a fair question to ask ourselves, “What is in this for me?”

“Does this work for me?” What is my boundary (aka the deal-breaking line)?” “What do I really want?”

If there’s no significant benefit or the bad outweighs the good, figure out how to cut your losses and move on to what serves you better.

Focus on what you can control and create the space for what you do want.

Otherwise, we are sabotaging ourselves and making ourselves victims to our...

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Self-Sabotage

Uncategorized Mar 18, 2019

Self-Sabotage.

I talk about it a lot.

How do we know if we are sabotaging ourselves? It looks like resistance, avoidance, and excuses. The language is “yeah, but...”

Self-sabotage is a vulnerability issue. Fear of failing. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of criticism. Imposter syndrome.

If you’re not getting traction, you’re in analysis paralysis, and you’re in a head spin it’s possibly self-sabotage.

The antidote is to push through discomfort.

Identify and name the feelings and thoughts that come up when you’re hitting a (self-imposed) obstacle over and over.

Focus on what you have control over. Own it and go all in.

Ask yourself- In what ways am I holding myself back from making progress?

Push through it.

It builds grit, resilience, and thicker skin.

If you need help pushing through some obstacles, join us for #thenext7days

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Use If This, Then That Conditions to Improve Productivity

Are you having trouble managing your to-do lists? Try If This, Then That triggers. 

If I finish X task from boring task list, then I can do Y task from fun task list. (Eat that Frog Strategy) 

  1. Identify the things you are resistant to, procrastinate on, and avoid. Make a list of all of thins things you’re not getting done. 
  2. Identify the tasks you are less resistant to, enjoy more, and have fun doing. Make a list of all of these things. 
  3. Categorize your tasks by type. (For example, Marketing, Fitness, Administrative,  
  4. Create your If this, then that trigger. If I do thing from X list, I can do thing from Y list. (Eat that frog first!) 

Hold yourself accountable, make micro-movements, and stack on your progress.

If you find that you are still having trouble getting things from the X list, then commit to micro-movements from that list.

For example, exercise for five minutes, do one task from unfun list, or spend five minutes on unfun task, then...

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