High achieving types often experience performance blocks.
When we unpack it, many times we discover perfectionism, vulnerability, and fear.
We may hold back words or action, because we are afraid of criticism and judgment about what we might say or do and what could go wrong.
We’re afraid of looking weak, foolish, and embarrassing ourselves.
We worry that we may not appear as smart or articulate as others and that we will make mistakes and look “dumb.”
So, we hold ourselves back and say and do less.
I will add that the more conservative the office or space, the more people seem to struggle with this.
Put yourself out there anyway.
Fail more and excel at embarrassing yourself and making mistakes. Practice recovery methods for snafus and embarrassing moments. Own them and correct them if you must. But don’t feel that you have to explain yourself too much.
Trust yourself. You’ve come this far and it’s not by accident. You have things...
Our workplaces, like many of our relationships, are often expected to give us a complete sense of happiness and satisfaction.
It’s unreasonable and unrealistic to expect anyone or any entity to provide us with all of our happiness, joy, success, and satisfaction.
We can’t impose our will onto others without conflict and vice-versa.
It’s on us to do our best to create happiness, joy, success, and satisfaction for ourselves in all the ways that we can.
It’s also a fair question to ask ourselves, “What is in this for me?”
“Does this work for me?” What is my boundary (aka the deal-breaking line)?” “What do I really want?”
If there’s no significant benefit or the bad outweighs the good, figure out how to cut your losses and move on to what serves you better.
Focus on what you can control and create the space for what you do want.
Otherwise, we are sabotaging ourselves and making ourselves victims to our...
I talk about it a lot.
How do we know if we are sabotaging ourselves? It looks like resistance, avoidance, and excuses. The language is “yeah, but...”
Self-sabotage is a vulnerability issue. Fear of failing. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of criticism. Imposter syndrome.
If you’re not getting traction, you’re in analysis paralysis, and you’re in a head spin it’s possibly self-sabotage.
The antidote is to push through discomfort.
Identify and name the feelings and thoughts that come up when you’re hitting a (self-imposed) obstacle over and over.
Focus on what you have control over. Own it and go all in.
Ask yourself- In what ways am I holding myself back from making progress?
Push through it.
It builds grit, resilience, and thicker skin.
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Are you having trouble managing your to-do lists? Try If This, Then That triggers.
If I finish X task from boring task list, then I can do Y task from fun task list. (Eat that Frog Strategy)
Hold yourself accountable, make micro-movements, and stack on your progress.
If you find that you are still having trouble getting things from the X list, then commit to micro-movements from that list.
For example, exercise for five minutes, do one task from unfun list, or spend five minutes on unfun task, then...
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